Clarice Satrom has always been an outgoing and fun-loving person. Growing up in a tight-knit Irish family, she learned to appreciate music, dancing and laughter. She carried on her family’s traditions as she and her husband Lester raised two daughters and two sons on their farm near Grandin, N.D. Through 48 years of marriage, Clarice and Lester enjoyed many laughs and memories.
A conversation with her husband’s doctor several years ago set Clarice and Lester’s lives on a path they hadn’t anticipated. Lester had previously been diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, and Lester’s doctor sat Clarice down for a talk during an appointment. “He said, ‘Why isn’t he on hospice?’ And I said, ‘Well, I thought that wasn’t until the end of your life,’” Clarice explained. “The doctor told me that’s what everybody says, and then he went to the phone and got my husband on hospice care immediately.”
Clarice hadn’t thought about hospice prior to that meeting, but she and Lester were thrilled with the care he received. An early referral to hospice by Lester’s doctor helped him live more fully for the next two years in their home and, later, in the nursing home. “I didn’t realize the full services [offered by Hospice of the Red River Valley],” she said. As Lester’s health continued to decline, Hospice was there for the couple. “The care was just so wonderful. The Hospice staff was always so helpful and nice and polite. They paid so much attention to him.” Lester passed away under the care of Hospice of the Red River Valley in 2008.
“After he died, I just didn’t know what I was going to do with myself,” Clarice said. “I felt all alone, even though I wasn’t.” Her two sons had taken over operations of the family farm, and Clarice kept busy cooking meals and taking care of her home. But she wanted to do something more.
Clarice was asked by a Hospice staff member if she’d be interested in volunteering for the organization. She quickly agreed. “I thought, ‘I’m lonely. I need to go out and do something,’” Clarice shared. “Hospice is wonderful, and I knew I wanted to do it.”
Throughout the past seven years, she has worked with dozens of patients. Clarice believes she’s able to bond with patients quickly because she brings her personality and sense of humor to the work, and she likes to keep things light-hearted. Her enthusiasm for the work—and her friendly, humorous personality—comes across as she recounts stories of her time spent volunteering.
She dresses in costumes and visits with patients on holidays. “Oh boy, do they laugh,” she says as she smiles. “At the nursing home and assisted living home, the people there are just so fun!” She sings and dances with patients when someone agrees to play the piano or guitar. She reads, goes for walks and sits at their bedsides. “Anything they want,” she said.
Each patient is different, of course. Clarice takes time to get to know them as individuals, to figure out “what makes them tick and then I work with that,” she said. She recalled one patient who had trouble speaking because of her illness, which made it difficult to have conversations. Clarice tried a new approach to connect with the patient. “One day I said, “Let’s sing Jesus Loves Me, and she just sang her heart out,” Clarice shared. “She knew all these songs, and she could sing them out, and you could understand her.”
Clarice pours her heart and soul into volunteering with Hospice patients. And giving back means the world to her. “People ask me, ‘How can you do it?’ I can do it because I love it,” she explained. “I love the people. I love to talk to people and especially in a situation like that. They’re all so precious.”
We have several upcoming community events for Hospice of the Red River Valley. We hope to see you there!
Living with Dementia
Tuesday, August 11, 2015
Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, Minn.
This event, co-sponsored by HRRV and the Alzheimer’s Association, features Carol Bradley Bursack and Dr. Tricia Langlois. Attendees will learn practical advice, resources and stories to offer hope and guide those living with dementia at any stage and their caregivers. Bring your questions! This event is free and open to the community. For more information, click here.
Saturday, August 29, 2015
Starts at Billy’s Corner Bar, Vergas, Minn.
Ole’s Ride is a motorcycle ride held in memory of Ole Barten, who lost his battle to cancer in February 2011. The ride kicks off from Billy’s Corner Bar in Vergas at noon. The cost is $25 per bike, $15 for additional rider, and includes a T-shirt, meal and chances at door prizes at each stop. A meal and live music by the FATCATS follow the ride. For more information, visit the Ole’s Ride Facebook page.
About Hospice of the Red River Valley
Hospice of the Red River Valley is an independent, not-for-profit hospice serving all, or portions of, 29 counties in North Dakota and Minnesota. Hospice care is intensive comfort care that alleviates pain and suffering, enhancing the quality of life for patients with life-limiting illnesses and their loved ones by addressing their medical, emotional, spiritual and grief needs. For more information, call toll free 800-237-4629, email firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.hrrv.org.