Sep 18

Hospice Hosts Journeying Home Conference Sept. 23-24!

Journeying Home 2014At Hospice of the Red River Valley, we’re committed to providing quality end-of-life care and education, including grief support and resources. We’re pleased to announce our annual Journeying Home Conference will take place Sept. 23-24, 2014, at the Ramada Plaza & Suites in Fargo.

The conference kicks off with a FREE community event on Tuesday, Sept. 23 from 7-9 p.m., open to the public with no registration required. Attendees will have the opportunity to learn from a professional speaker, counselor and expert on grief and loss, Douglas C. Smith. His inspiring and engaging presentation, “Different Styles of Grieving, Different Ways of Healing,” will help anyone who has experienced grief through his message of hope and healing. Participants will also have the chance to quietly reflect on their losses and honor their unique grief journeys.

On Wednesday, Sept. 24, health care professionals are invited to attend the daylong educational event. Smith will present, “Ethical and Spiritual Issues in End-of-Life Care.” Continuing education units/hours available at this program are 6.5 social work CEUs and 5.75 contact hours for nurses.* Registration is required for this portion of the conference. The conference fee is $99. Click here to register.

Please join us, and let others know about these events. For details, visit or call (800) 237-4629.

About the Presenter
Douglas C. Smith is a professional speaker, trainer, consultant, counselor and expert on grief and loss. He has worked in hospitals, hospices, and social service agencies. He is the author of several books, including The Tao Of Dying, Caregiving: Hospice-Proven Techniques For Healing Body And Soul, Being A Wounded Healer, and The Complete Book Of Counseling The Dying And The Grieving. He also has much experiential knowledge in the fields of terminal illness and grieving, having lost to death a brother and two daughters.

*Hospice of the Red River Valley is an approved provider for continuing education for social workers in North Dakota. This continuing nursing education activity has been approved by the Arizona Nurses’ Association, an accredited approver by the American Nurses Credentialing Center’s Commission on Accreditation.

About Hospice of the Red River Valley
Hospice of the Red River Valley is an independent, not-for-profit hospice serving all, or portions of, 29 counties in North Dakota and Minnesota. Hospice care is intensive comfort care that alleviates pain and suffering, enhancing the quality of life for patients with life-limiting illnesses and their loved ones by addressing their medical, emotional, spiritual and grief needs. For more information, call toll free 800-237-4629, email or visit

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Sep 09

Loose Ends

Karin MobergBy Chaplain Karin Moberg

In the last year of Mom’s life she had become increasingly confined because of emphysema and COPD, until eventually she was living what we call in hospice, a “bed-to-chair” existence. Her oxygen tubing was long enough to stretch across her small one room apartment, while her nebulizer and inhalers sat on her end table within arm’s reach of her favorite chair.

She spent hours in her big, red floral patterned, antique winged-back chair—reading, watching the San Diego Padres, playing with her cat named Blue and crocheting.
Crocheting was probably her preferred form of handwork. It seemed like the click of the needles, soothed her similar to a mantra, calming her anxiety and easing her breathing. I wonder if this activity didn’t also enlarge her otherwise shrinking world by giving her a more expansive purpose, as she held one of her loved ones in mind with each new creation.

She took a certain pride in the notion that every completed piece had at least one mistake in it because nothing was perfect, insisting it was the imperfection that made a doily or afghan unique and special—compared to a factory-run product.

Her lovely flawed creations were special—not just because they were made by hand—but because they were made by her hand.

In the last week of her life, my brother Dave and I were going through her bags of unfinished projects. I thought of the 250 brown and cream granny squares I crocheted as a young adult—an afghan in the making. I kept that paper bag full of squares for years, thinking maybe someday I would finish it. I never did.

Mom’s impending death, like any, had a way of bringing unfinished business into focus, not by choice but by necessity.

As we sorted through a closet filled with all her homey but incomplete efforts, we discovered many loose ends. We didn’t want her precious work to unravel, so we asked her if she remembered how to tie up the ends.

My brother knelt in front of her holding one of her beautiful pineapple-patterned doilies in his hands. Mom was too weak, and her fingers would not cooperate. My brother said, “That’s ok, Mom; we’ll do it.”

In that tender failure, I experienced a fresh illumination of a larger truth. Since there is no perfect life—there is no perfect ending. We do the best we can, but something is always left hanging and unfinished; passed on to the next generation to complete or continue in its own way. In these thoughts, I felt strangely comforted and readied to carry on—as her daughter, and also as a hospice chaplain—encouraging and supporting patients and families in this final spiritual act of letting go.

That same night, in spite of the loose ends, Mom whispered, “I’m ready, I’m ready.”

And I knew what she meant.

Karin Moberg is a chaplain at Hospice of the Red River Valley.

About Hospice of the Red River Valley
Hospice of the Red River Valley is an independent, not-for-profit hospice serving all, or portions of, 29 counties in North Dakota and Minnesota. Hospice care is intensive comfort care that alleviates pain and suffering, enhancing the quality of life for patients with life-limiting illnesses and their loved ones by addressing their medical, emotional, spiritual and grief needs. For more information, call toll free 800-237-4629, email or visit

Upcoming Event
Hospice of the Red River Valley is pleased to offer the 2014 Journeying Home Conference, Sept. 23-24. Douglas C. Smith, professional speaker, trainer, consultant and counselor, will present “Different Styles of Grieving, Different Styles of Healing” during a FREE community event on Sept. 23 from 7-9 p.m. This portion of the conference is free and open to the public.

On Sept. 24 from 8:45 a.m. to 4 p.m., he will present “Ethical and Spiritual Issues in End-of-Life Care.” This event is for health care professionals, and registration is required. Conference fee is $89 on or before Sept. 15, and $99 after Sept. 15. Continuing education units/hours available at this program. Click here to register.

Smith has worked in hospitals, hospices and social service agencies. He is the author of several books, including The Tao of Dying, Caregiving: Hospice-Proven Techniques For Healing Body And Soul, Being A Wounded Healer and The Complete Book Of Counseling The Dying And The Grieving. He also has much experiential knowledge in the fields of terminal illness and grieving.

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Aug 26

Ride the Red for Hospice on September 13!

Ride the RedFlint Communications invites you to gather your friends and family and join us for the
14th Annual Ride the Red to benefit
 Hospice of the Red River Valley!

Saturday, Sept. 13, 2014
Registration opens at 9 a.m.; the bike ride begins at 9:30 a.m.

This non-competitive bike ride begins and ends at Fargo’s Trefoil Park, located at 1321 Elm St. N. Participants will follow the Fargo-Moorhead Recreation Trail; the mid-point is Lindenwood Park. The route is approximately 13 miles.

Rain Date
Saturday, Sept. 20, same time, same place.

The fee to register is $25, and all proceeds directly benefit Hospice of the Red River Valley. Children 12 and under ride FREE with a paid adult. Register by August 30 to guarantee your free t-shirt! In addition to the bike ride, attendees will enjoy coffee and breakfast pastries, and a chance to win door prizes, including a new bike!

Click here to register online.

“Like” the Ride the Red Facebook page to see updates and the bike trail map. Invite your friends and family to join the event on Facebook, too!

We hope to see you there! Let’s Ride the Red!





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Aug 12

Hospice Nurse Practitioner, On Compassion & Kindness

Michelle Cooley

Michelle Cooley, Hospice of the Red River Valley nurse practitioner

We are all the same inside, and we all have the same basic needs—no matter our culture, age or road to travel. It’s a simple sentiment, but one in which Michelle Cooley, Hospice of the Red River Valley nurse practitioner, lives to the “T.” As a mother of three, grandmother of two, former foster parent and international exchange student host family mother, Michelle understands acts of love, compassion and kindness are far more rewarding long-term than the initial benefits they reap.

“It’s always been my belief that we can make the world a better place by helping one child or one person at a time,” Michelle explained. “I want to help out any way I can.” The calling to make a difference resonates not only in Michelle’s personal life, but also in her career choice—nursing.

For more than 30 years, she worked in the Grand Forks health care system as a registered nurse, then a nurse practitioner. Additionally, Michelle worked as an assistant clinical professor at the North Dakota College of Nursing in Grand Forks during much of the same time. After having raised her children with her husband, Michelle made the move to hospice care a few months ago when she joined Hospice of the Red River Valley. “It’s always something I wanted to do,” she explained. “I want to be there to help patients live the fullest life possible until the end.”

In her new role, Michelle travels the more than 25,000 square miles that encompass Hospice of the Red River Valley’s service area for face-to-face visits with patients. She also works closely with Hospice’s medical director to collaborate on comfort and end-of-life care for patients and provides expert guidance to Hospice nursing staff regarding patient care.

“I feel I can make a difference in the lives of patients and their families by being caring, compassionate and supportive,” Michelle said. “We’re all going to be there some day, and no matter if it’s just something little, or a larger issue the patient faces, I want to advocate for them—and help be their voice.”

During her short time at Hospice, it’s become apparent to Michelle that Hospice is the perfect fit, because like her, the other Hospice staff she has met takes their work very seriously. “I can see through everyone I’ve met at Hospice so far—even during orientation—it’s all about the patient and family,” Michelle explained. “It’s not a job to them [hospice staff]; it’s their mission. It takes a special kind of person to work in end-of-life care.”

Based on the sum of her experiences in nursing and with Hospice so far, Michelle is thoroughly excited about the months to come as she becomes more immersed in her role, working closely with patients. “It’s [hospice care] a good reminder to really appreciate what you might otherwise take for granted,” she said. “Dying is such a natural part of living, and I want to make that experience as comfortable as possible for the patient and the patient’s family while advocating for both.”

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Jul 29

Every Gift Counts: Donations to Hospice Patients Provide Immeasurable Support

Jane BartholomayBy Jane Bartholomay

If you knew you had just a few months left to laugh, love and live, how would you choose to spend your final days or weeks? For some faced with a terminal illness, the choice is clear—comfortably and surrounded by loved ones, which means accepting hospice care.

What services does Hospice provide?
When that decision is made—to transfer from curative care to comfort care—and Hospice of the Red River Valley becomes involved, the meaningful work of supporting that person’s end-of-life wishes takes form. A detailed, patient-specific plan of care is designed by a team of hospice care specialists, including a registered nurse (RN), licensed social worker, chaplain and volunteer coordinator. All services, equipment and medication related to the individual’s terminal diagnosis become a part of the compassionate, end-of-life care the person deserves.

In addition to caring for each patient, Hospice supports the patient’s family members through caregiver education—teaching caregivers how to provide direct care for their loved ones—and grief support services for up to 13 months after a death. Grief support is provided based on each person’s individual comfort level and may include one-on-one visits, phone calls and educational materials. Hospice of the Red River Valley also offers support groups open to the communities we serve.

Why does it matter?
We need you. While some of our services are reimbursed through Medicare, Medicaid or private insurance, Hospice of the Red River Valley cares for anyone who meets the medical guidelines for care, regardless of insurance coverage, ability to pay or distance from a major city. As a not-for-profit organization serving 29 counties in North Dakota and Minnesota, patients are cared for in the setting of their choice—wherever they call home, including private residences, assisted living facilities, nursing homes and hospitals.

In 2013, we cared for an average of 278 patients each day—many of whom resided in rural areas. Donations and community support make our work possible—ensuring everyone who qualifies for hospice has access to care that can lead to a more comfortable life and more moments with loved ones. Deliberate acts of generosity also provide much needed support for families during their most difficult times.

Every gift, your gift—no matter its size or form—provides immeasurable support for the care and aid of patients and their families throughout our service region, helping each person live the last months and weeks to the fullest surrounded by those who matter most.

How can I help?
Contributions to Hospice of the Red River Valley come in many forms, and all gifts to Hospice of the Red River Valley are tax deductible, as determined by the law.

There are so many types of gifts you can give:

We are often reminded of how the care provided during difficult times has touched the lives of those involved. Recently, we received this note from a family member whose mother was served by Hospice of the Red River Valley. “Thank you so much for the gentle and compassionate care given to our mother. Words cannot describe the depth of our gratitude. You were always there when we needed you.”

For more information on opportunities to support Hospice of the Red River Valley, please call (800) 237-4629, email or visit our website.

Jane Bartholomay is a development officer at Hospice of the Red River Valley.


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Jul 15

Caregiving 101

Sharon Dardisby Sharon Dardis

Editor’s note: Hospice of the Red River Valley is fortunate to have wonderful guest bloggers contribute to our blog. This blog is written by Sharon Dardis, former Hospice of the Red River Valley employee, and republishing or reprinting any part of this article, The Caregiver Bill of Rights or Top 10 List is prohibited without prior written permission by the author, Sharon Dardis.

This story has a happy ending, and retelling it still feels like therapy. Four years ago, I was thrust into the role of caregiver for my husband who became suddenly, critically ill. I learned hard lessons about advocating and caregiving. Just a month short of retirement, and claiming he had no warning signs, Stan was struck with a serious bout of sepsis. He nearly died. Afterward, he said he thought his aches and pains were “pending retirement.” Since I’m a nurse, I felt somehow I’d failed him. I should have seen or suspected something. The next four months of my life as a caregiver began early in the morning of April 1, 2010, with a call to 911. When I called our kids later that day to say their dad was in ICU, our son asked, “April Fools, right, Mom?” 

Conscious Caregiver
As a nurse, I always thought I knew the ropes—navigating the maze of medical care with a loved one would be easier for me because of my experience. I seriously think it may have made the experience more difficult. Early on, a friend and fellow nurse suggested I keep a journal, recording not only my feelings but also information, names, lab results, appointments, who called, who said what, etc. It was good advice; it helped me to not feel completely out of control. (I still flip through it occasionally, reprocessing the experience.) But I think keeping a journal made the medical community nervous. There I sat, notebook in hand, pen poised as the latest specialist recounted the newest findings. It came in handy, and in several cases, was helpful, in Stan’s recovery (and my own mental stability). I also recorded my thoughts or things Stan said or did.

We were lucky. After three different hospitals, a second ambulance ride, scans, massive antibiotics, and finally, major surgery, I took Stan home to recover with another two months of IVs and therapy. He had experienced good care. His recovery complete, he dove into his “new life,” suffering no ill effects. Today, he’s healthy and, like me, very, very grateful. 

He remembers little of those intense four months. Only a month into it, he did attend his retirement party. Fiercely proud and not wanting to go unless he could “stand tall and be coherent,” (but still in significant pain) his doctor commented, “You want both?” We stood together that day, addressing his guests with a short talk titled, “Top10 Things We Would Have Rather Not Learned This Month.” He let me help him prepare these short remarks, which was very much unlike him. It was not how he had planned his retirement send off. We took turns presenting; it felt surreal. It took another two months before Stan was fully himself again. Like all caregivers, I believe I came away with some hard lessons learned. 

Caregiver Bill of Rights
After a particularly bad day, I left Stan’s hospital room in tears; actually, I was hysterical. I knew I was exhausted and worried, but I was also frustrated and sad, and writing helped express my concerns. I pounded out my own “Caregiver Bill of Rights,” taking into account some of the experiences I had as the “responsible caregiver.” Stan was my husband; I was his advocate. It never felt easy and rereading what I’d written later, it was pretty clear. This kind of caregiving was complicated.

I suspect if every caregiver on the planet wrote their own bill of rights for caregivers, there would be as many different versions as there are people. Since each caregiving situation is different and every person is up against a unique set of problems, there are a million ways to approach the topic of the self-care and preservation of those who provide care to loved ones.

Google “Bill of Rights for Caregivers,” and you’ll find many affirming approaches to this proposition. Jo Horne presents a helpful list of reasons to believe caring for ones’ self is “not an act of selfishness.” She reminds us that to survive, we need to first take care of ourselves. Not knowing her story, nor who she might have cared for, I read between the lines. She understands, I suspect from experience, that to stay a strong and effective caregiver, one needs to take good care of oneself.

I think many of these well-worded and carefully constructed “documents,” meant to help instruct and support others in the art of caregiving, are born of personal trials; hard-won, hands-on, days, weeks, months, years of attending to those who need us. It’s never an easy road.

Sherri Snelling, CEO of Caregiving Club and author of “A Cast of Caregivers” has another version, one that speaks not only to self-care and preservation but also beyond, to what to we should be able to expect from the health care team, employers, our family and friends, as well as public, private and even national resources. 

You’re Not Alone
I never dreamt I’d be in a situation that would prompt me to craft my own Caregiver Bill of Rights. I suppose it’s like writing a letter in a fit of passion; sometimes it’s better to wait before you send it out or maybe never send it at all, tear it up or bury it in some drawer. But in my case, my own Caregiver Bill of Rights was written just as I came to the end of my rope. Tears streaming down my face, I was forced to admit, even though I was a nurse, or maybe because I was, I felt powerless and exhausted. Once I pounded out my thoughts, took a breath and thought about it, it felt good. I felt better. I suspect I’m not alone. 

What follows is what I wished for as a caregiver; my own Caregiver Bill of Rights. Rereading it, I think what I wanted most was to be heard and acknowledged. I’ve left my version mostly unedited, as a reminder of that difficult time. Caregivers are fragile. A smile, a kind word goes a long way in helping ease what is often a long and difficult road. Three cheers for caregivers everywhere! 

Caregivers Bill of Rights: Regarding Clinic Visits, Home Care and Hospitalization of Loved Ones
By Sharon Dardis, May 2010

  • Within legal and confidentiality parameters, I have the right to act as an advocate for my loved one’s health care and medical treatments.
  • I have the right to ask questions on his/her behalf, to be with them during exams and cares and to take informed notes, including test results and procedures, to be a more effective, informed caregiver, without fear of intimidation from medical and/or support staff.
  • I have the right to clear explanations with understandable instructions, including homecare before discharge from the hospital setting.
  • I have the right to have caregiving questions answered promptly when I call the doctors and nurses.
  • I have the right to not be intimidated or put down for my advocacy role, by gatekeepers for the doctors, nurses, nursing assistants, clinic appointment staff or other medical personal.
  • As the primary caregiver for my loved one, I have the right to respect, and even compassion, from all medical staff and personnel, including non-medical personnel.
  • I have the right to expect courteous and kind attention from all health care workers as I advocate for my ill loved one. I have the right to expect the best medical care available for my loved one. I have the right to request second opinions or transfers if the care for my loved one seems inadequate or substandard.
  • I have the right to be with my loved one as long as it doesn’t impede the tasks of those caring for him or her.
  • In so much as caregiving demands both physical and emotional energy, I have the right to a championing of my role from medical personnel, to empower me and my cares, rather than being given an impression I am somehow intruding or in the way.
  • I have a right to wear a big button that says, “I am a CAREGIVER! Caregiving Counts!” to remind people of the important role I play in my loved one’s recovery. (The downside of this is that, really, every one of us is a caregiver in one way or another. We should all be wearing “treat me kindly” buttons!)

Sharon Dardis, RN, BSN, is a former Hospice of the Red River Valley employee. Beginning as a volunteer, she later became a hospice staff nurse and bereavement specialist. Sharon developed and facilitated “Kids Grieve, Too,” for Hospice, a support and educational program for young people experiencing the death of a loved one. Moving to the Twin Cities in 1993, she helped develop and coordinate “Kids In Grief” another children’s grief support group in Stillwater, Minn. Now retired, Sharon is a board member of the Minnesota Coalition for Death Education and Support and also edits their quarterly newsletter, “Coalition News.” In 2000, Sharon coauthored and published, “As I Journey On: Meditations for Those Facing Death.” The proud mother of three and grandmother of eight, Sharon spends her time with husband, Stan, in St. Paul, Minn., and Alpine, Wyo.

Editor’s note: Republishing or reprinting any part of this article, The Caregiver Bill of Rights or Top 10 List is prohibited without prior written permission by the author, Sharon Dardis.


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Jun 30

A Brit with a Big Heart: One Volunteer’s Experience with Hospice

Hazel MeidlingerMore than 4,000 miles away and 50 years ago, while growing up in Leicester, England, Hazel Meidlinger couldn’t have imagined the significant role Hospice would play in her life. She was familiar with the concept of hospice care because of its English roots, a movement started by Dame Cicely Saunders in 1948. “I heartily believed in hospice long before it was started in America because I recognized the importance of that type of care at the end of life,” Hazel explained. “I’m very much in-tune with it.” But as she busied herself with establishing a family, Hazel didn’t think much about hospice until many years later when a volunteer opportunity arose.

A Family Formed
While still in England, Hazel met the love of her life, Harold, while he was stationed there for the U.S. Air Force. Soon after they met, the couple married and welcomed the first of four children into their family. In 1955, Harold completed his service in the Air Force, and the Meidlinger family transplanted to America, making Council Bluffs, Iowa, their first home abroad. In the early 70s, the family, which had increased by three more girls, moved to Fargo, N.D., for Harold’s work, and Hazel continued to be a stay-at-home “mum”—raising their children.

Right Place, Right Time
It wasn’t until after their girls were grown that Hazel sought to continue volunteering as she did in Iowa. “Back in Iowa, I was somewhat involved in animal rescue, and I enjoyed that experience, and I wanted to do something here after the girls were gone from the house,” Hazel said. Her good works began at Dakota Hospital where she helped run the gift shop, and she said the experience was “just delightful.”

While working at the hospital, Hazel met two individuals who were instrumental in getting her involved with Heirlooms, an upscale resale store benefitting Hospice of the Red River Valley (HRRV). “I thought the whole concept of Heirlooms was just really neat,” Hazel explained. “Hospice was just getting the store started, and after listening to a presentation about the story of Hospice of the Red River Valley and their idea for Heirlooms, I just knew I had to help.”

Since the store’s inception in 2003, an upbeat, merry Hazel has greeted Heirlooms patrons at the front counter on Saturday afternoons, and even in her 80s, she wouldn’t have it any other way. “I look forward to my volunteering there, and I’ve never even thought about stopping,” she said. “I’m going to continue volunteering at Heirlooms as long as they’ll have me.”

Staffed by more than 70 volunteers, Heirlooms isn’t just a place of business to Hazel, but rather it’s a place with a wonderful atmosphere where she considers everyone as friends. She frequently sees familiar faces from the community. “I love the people there—both volunteers and shoppers, and I don’t consider what I do work because it’s such a pleasure,” Hazel described. “The other volunteers and the management staff are just wonderful.”

Something More
In early 2014, Hazel’s experience with Hospice of the Red River Valley deepened when her husband, Harold, began receiving care. For many years prior, Hazel looked after her husband who suffered from dementia, and when it was time for Hospice, Hazel welcomed the help. “I didn’t feel like the world was on my shoulders anymore; I didn’t feel alone,” she explained. “Even though my husband wasn’t on hospice care for very long, the Hospice staff was a great comfort and help to me and my family.” Hazel described his primary Hospice registered nurse as “kindness herself” and added the staff was always “very concerned with her husband’s care.”

Shortly after Harold began hospice care, he passed away, but Hazel remains grateful for the cares he received. “Now that I’ve seen the way Hospice helped our family, it’s all the more reason for me to continue supporting the organization,” she said. “I saw firsthand the kind of care people are receiving, and it’s so important because we’re all going to be there one day. I totally believe in Hospice.”

As the days go by and Hazel’s journey continues, she looks forward to the weekends when she works at Heirlooms. Smiling, Hazel added, “I feel great when I’m there and knowing that my work helps support such a wonderful organization that has given so much to others.”

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Jun 17

Join us on July 1 for the 2nd Annual Go Hawaiian for Hospice Luau Lunch

Go Hawaiian for Hospice 2014Choice Financial invites the community to the second annual “Go Hawaiian for Hospice” luau lunch!Go Hawiian for Hospice young girl

When: Tuesday, July 1 from 11 a.m. – 1:30 p.m.

Where: Choice Financial, 4501 23rd Ave. S., Fargo

For a suggested donation of $5, attendees will feast on a pig roast, French fries, fresh pineapple, Hawaiian punch and a frozen treat. In addition to delicious food, we’ll also have live music, raffle prizes, games, a memorial wall where you can remember a loved one and more! Make a donation of $25 or more, and Aartisan Fine Furniture Distinct Design will give you a $25 Maxwells gift certificate. All proceeds will directly benefit Hospice of the Red River Valley’s mission to provide comfort at the end of life’s journey.

Go Hawaiian for Hospice event organizers


Go Hawaiian for Hospice was founded in 2013 by Erv Inniger of Choice Financial. After witnessing firsthand the fundamental care provided by Hospice of the Red River Valley (HRRV) for a close friend, Norene Bunker, Erv was inspired to create a fundraising event. Erv, and a Choice Financial bank customer who had also experienced hospice care for several family members, rallied a team, and Go Hawaiian was created.


 Go Hawaiian for Hospice event volunteers

In its inaugural year, Go Hawaiian for Hospice event planners hoped to raise $10,000—the event surpassed all expectations and raised $20,000. The 2014 event fundraising goal is $30,000.

Please join us on Tuesday, July 1 at Choice Financial in Fargo for Go Hawaiian for Hospice!

Click to purchase an event ticket in advance, or visit the Go Hawaiian for Hospice Facebook event page.

Event Sponsors:










Special thanks to:
Master Construction, United Rentals, Nine Dragons, Comfort King, HOM Furniture, Mike Dragosavich of Spotlight Media, Paul Bougie of Spotlight Media, Indigo Signworks, the Fargo Fire Department, Corwin Automotive Group and Jim Elliot.

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Jun 03

Hospice Care: Creating Cherished Moments for Patients & Families

Hospice Care: Creating Cherished Moments for Patients and FamiliesIn May, the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO) launched a new national campaign, “Moments of Life: Made Possible by Hospice,” aimed at educating those who are unfamiliar with the benefits of hospice care. The campaign focuses on sharing patient and family life moments made possible by hospices throughout the country.

Hospice of Red River Valley is thrilled this new campaign garners national attention and shares the news that hospice care provides opportunities to live a fuller and richer life to the end. With the assistance of our professional staff and dedicated volunteers, those under our care can focus on experiencing life’s moments, such as spending precious time with their families and fulfilling life-long dreams.

We share these stories through our website and this blog. We encourage you to read the stories and contact us to share your story—how you help create life moments for those receiving hospice care.

Learn more about the Moments of Life: Made Possible by Hospice campaign below in a public service announcement (PSA) and press release issued by the NHPCO.

NHPCO Launches New Moments of Life Campaign

Patients’ and families’ stories show hospice is about more than death – it’s about life

Alexandria, Va.—May 16, 2014—In celebrating the 40th anniversary of hospice care in the United States, the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization is excited to introduce a new national campaign, “Moments of Life: Made Possible by Hospice,” that will show all Americans that hospice focuses on living and enables special moments and memories at the end of a life for patients and loved ones.

A father’s final wedding dance with his daughter; an afternoon concert with family and friends; the opportunity to bring an infant daughter home; an afternoon tea party with grandchildren… these are only some of the moments made possible by hospice.

The Moments of Life awareness campaign will feature stories gathered by hospices across the country of patients and families experiencing hospice care first hand. The stories will take the form of videos, photos, audio recordings and text and will offer a vibrant cross-section of different perspectives of hospice.

“In this campaign, we are looking for real stories that show patients’ abilities to ‘do more’ as a result of their experience on hospice,” said Anita Brikman, senior vice president of communications for NHPCO. “No matter what format is used, these stories should show America that even when you’re dying, there is still a lot of living to do.”

For many who have not seen hospice in action, it has become a common misconception that hospice patients are merely lying in bed, waiting for their end to come. For families who have experienced hospice, they see the focus is not on dying—it is about living as fully as possible. Hospice not only provides the highest quality care, it affords more moments, memories and opportunities.

“With the Moments of Life campaign, NHPCO is working with the entire hospice community to show that hospice helps patients obtain the end-of-life care they prefer at home, free of pain, surrounded by loved ones,” said J. Donald Schumacher, NHPCO president and CEO.

For more information, visit the new Moments of Life microsite at

Anita Brikman
NHPCO Senior Vice President, Strategic Communications
Ph: 703-837-3154


Take Our Survey!
In an effort to better gauge our community’s understanding of hospice care, we created a survey. Participation is anonymous and should take less than 5 minutes. Thank you in advance for your participation! Click here to begin.

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May 20

Heart to Heart: Hospice Staff a Precious Aid to a Patient

Caroline and JenniferMark Twain once said, “Praise is well, compliment is well, but affection—that is the last and final and most precious reward that any man can win, whether by character or achievement.” Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA) Jenny, at Hospice of the Red River Valley, has earned that ultimate prize—affection—from our patient, Caroline.

At age 89, Caroline was accustomed to taking care of things herself or with the help of her husband, who recently passed away. In October 2013, Caroline began receiving hospice care, and ever since then, she’s received not only exceptional care through Jenny, but has also found a friend. “I call her my Jenny,” Caroline explained. “She has a real spark of life in her. She has a full plate besides me, but you wouldn’t know it when she’s taking care of me.”

Jenny provides Caroline with basic cares, such as bathing and hair washing, but she also is careful to leave a little time for special things like painting Caroline’s nails or chatting over a cup of coffee. “It’s the extra small things that add up for someone,” Jenny said. “I so enjoy the time I spend with Caroline.” Jenny has worked as a CNA with Hospice of the Red River Valley for five years and has formed a real bond with pleasant, easygoing Caroline. “Patients like Caroline make my work so much easier,” Jenny explained.

Anyone who has spent a little time with Caroline and Jenny together can see it—the undeniable connection the two share, building such a rapport with one another, it’s like they’ve known each other for years.“I have up and down days, but she’s given me such wonderful help,” Caroline said. “Jenny’s my right arm, and I couldn’t survive without her.”

The cares Jenny provides are precious to Caroline, just as the entire hospice experience has been for her. Caroline said hospice care is more than she expected. “Hospice takes a real interest in you,” she described. “I’ve had people just stop in on their way to visit someone else, and I think it’s so nice Hospice takes the time to do that. You know you’re in good hands,” Caroline said.

In addition to “her” Jenny’s help, Caroline’s oldest son, David, also provides support. “He usually has coffee and a sandwich out for me,” Caroline said. “He’s helped me so much.” David is one of four children—three sons and one daughter—Caroline raised in the house she and David now reside in.

“I just love it when my Jenny comes to visit,” Caroline said with a smile. “She’s the best, and I look forward to it.”

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